As the year comes to a close, we all recognize that 2016 has brought us many surprises, all of them beautiful in their own way. If it wasn’t about a transition moving forward, we wouldn’t be here. So here are 9 things to embrace in 2017 for what is to be a new beginning of the new self.
1. Accept Responsibility
Guilt is a trick of the mind. Accept responsibility for yourself, your life and your actions. You are response-able. You are an adult. You are account-able, meaning, with every action you take, you account for it. You chose to do it; you must accept the consequences of it and you did it all for a reason…to learn. If you continue to feel guilty, you stop learning. You attract every single experience in your life, regardless of how positive or negative your perception is of that experience. You must come to terms that there are no negative experiences, only experiences.
2. Accept That What You See Happening In The World Is In Perfect Synchronicity With Everything Else And You
You can’t separate what is happening the world from what is happening within you. They are one in the same, just as a tree is part of the ground or the crest of wave is part of the trough. You may think they are separate, but they are not. So if you see imbalance, anger, violence, strife, conflict, etc, know that those same patterns are happening with you. That’s why you notice them in the first place. Take ownership of what happens in the world and know that once you do, you’ve taken your power back as a magnificent manifester with the understanding of the collective creation on Earth.
3. Accept That Others Need To Experience Their Own Reality
Stop trying to bring people over to your team. They are on your team…they’re just playing a different position. Everybody has their own version of the truth and your version is no more correct than theirs. Your version of the truth is dictated by your path and learning experience which is completely defined by your vibrational state. That is why we are so unique and capable of creating our own realities. We are what we think and feel. It is much wiser to agree to disagree than impose your truth on another person whose learning experience may be the polar opposite of your own, after all your truth is only YOUR TRUTH and not anyone else’s. Think of every person as having their own Earth and your just another player in their game. They’re making the rules, not you and they may possibly see and feel what you do one day, but until that day comes, be kind, respectful and share your knowledge in the most courteous way possible. The goal is to open doors, not close them
4 Accept That You Can’t Change or Control Anybody Else
Be willing to let go of your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you — situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street — just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better that will make you feel. You can never control anybody but yourself. Your need to control others stems from your own fears and lack of control in your own life. As soon as you are able to let go, your need for control will end.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.”
~ Lao Tzu
5. Accept That Procrastinators Are Made Not Born.
Procrastination is not a problem of time management or of planning. It is often one of simply not knowing where to begin (and sometimes laziness). We have so many dreams and goals, but none of them will ever get accomplished if we are always leaving it for “tomorrow”. Take the time to consider that there is no time better than the “present.” So why not do it now? If it is really important to you, why would you postpone it? You can discover that “why” by simply going through your mindset and tracking all the excuses and their sources. It is different for everybody, but it usually takes all of 5 minutes to analyze and discover the “whys” in procrastination. Meditation and mindfulness are a tremendous resource in this phase.
6. Accept That Your Expectations Will Filter Your Experience
Let go of any expectations of yourself that will limit your growth. If you hold high expectations for how others should behave, you will often be disappointed if they do not represent themselves in the manner you expected. It is only your expectations of people that cause you to judge them which ultimately is a judgement of yourself. Far too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need…and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life — this one right now — you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.
7. Accept That All Guilt Is Based On Your Perception
Guilt is defined as being based on belief but it really is more perception than anything else. It is often based on an empathic reaction where we witness the suffering of others combined with a failure of doing — (which is usually a direct result of our behaviors and choices). Blaming ourselves makes us victims of our circumstance and that drives guilt through the roof. Know that you are empowered in every life circumstance and that you manifest all choices and experiences when you want. Self-forgiveness and loving yourself fully will kick guilt to the curb and it will never have a chance to return in the same way it did in the past.
8. Accept That You Don’t Have To Be A Right-Fighter To Be True To Yourself
There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong — wanting to always be right — even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. We love to right-fight. It’s just not worth it because the state of being right is all subjective with so many layers and perspectives of truth. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question:”Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” ~ Wayne Dyer.
“Regardless of the conflict, a TRUE MASTER will always surrender their will to be right and yield to kindness.”
9. Accept That You Will Never Stand In Your Full Power, Unless You Release Your Fears
Constantly reliving and reacting to your past, attachments, resentments and fears is what keeps you from growing. We often assume the past looked so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for — the past that you are now dreaming about — was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. The moment you detach yourself from all those material things you don’t need, you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying–a state beyond words. Let go of your internal resentment towards people, situations and events. If you hold a grudge, you only take power away from yourself and learning stops. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist — you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place. Most of the limiting factors on this page stem from fear. Release your fear and everything will change in your life, almost simultaneously. Many successful people have achieved great heights only because they have let go of their fear of success.